Moms: How To Put Yourself First Without Feeling Guilty

To clarify, you never have to neglect your child or children to put yourself first as a mother. There are ways to find time for you during the day without letting it affect your full-time job as a mother. You might scoff and roll your eyes at that idea, but it’s all about effective time management during your day. It’s all about changing your routine and optimizing time so that it benefits you as well as your children. Think of it this way: how can you be the best mother possible? The answer: look after yourself as well as possible.


Your kids need a physically and mentally healthy mother who’s tough and able to look after them and guide them through the world. If you’re flagging each day and barely able to hold it together because you’re focusing all your energy on making sure your kids are healthy then, ironically, you’re not going to be on top of your game and you’re not going to be able to help them to the best of your ability. If you want to be awake and focused enough to help them with their homework when they get home, even after a long and tiring day, then it all starts by help yourself before the kids get home. Here are some ways in which you can start to put yourself first and look after your health so as to better look after your kids.

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A good diet.

This might seem like an obvious piece of advice, but ask yourself whether you’ve let your good eating habits go out of the window since having children. Maybe there’s just “not time” to eat properly, and that argument seems to be popping up for a lot of different things. Don’t excuse yourself from healthiness just because you’re busy. Your health is the most important thing you should be looking after; work and a busy schedule should never come first. Moreover, you might find that your brain better copes with the challenges at work and home if you start to eat better.

Start by cutting out sugars. You might not eat big meals anymore because you don’t have the appetite for it, but those small snacks throughout the day might be doing more harm than good. You shouldn’t be scared of calories; just bad calories. And it’s not about fatty foods either. Fat isn’t bad for you; sugar is the real criminal. In fact, low-fat foods should be avoided because they’re often pumped full of sugar to compensate for the lack of taste. In general, stick to your fruit, vegetables, and protein-containing foods. You know – follow the advice you give to your children. Lead by example if you need motivation to look after yourself. You want to show your kids the way to a healthy lifestyle.


An exercise regime.

Those three words probably sent shivers down your spine. You can tell yourself that it’s because you’re a busy mother, but you probably just don’t like the idea of exercising; that’s fine because we’re all like that, in a sense. It has nothing to do with you being a mother. That’s a good thing, of course, because it means it’s all to do with your mindset and you have the power to motivate yourself to get your body moving. That’s what it’s all about, at the end of the day. You don’t need to hit the gym for 10 hours a day; you just need to find a way to keep your body physically active in some form because that’s the key to looking after yourself (you should definitely be doing some form of cardio to keep your heart healthy). As mentioned in another of our articles, staying active is so crucial to keeping endorphins pumping through the body and maintaining a happy brain as well as a happy body. Both of those things sound important to being a good mother.


The question might be: what kind of exercise should I do? You might hate the idea of hitting the gym, so you could take up a sport that you love; if you join a club or a team then it becomes a social event and not a boring “chore”. You won’t even think of it as exercise if you choose something fun; yoga classes might seem like a stereotype amongst, but they’re definitely worth the workout. Of course, you could get over to if you feel like you need a stricter workout program so as to avoid falling off the wagon. It’s all about what works for you. A half-hour stroll in the local park could make all the difference to your health; it’s better than sitting still all day, whether you work in an office or stay at home.

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Make the time for things.

If you feel that you have a good grasp of how to be healthy but you keep complaining that you just don’t have the time for things then make the time. As explained over at, Mothers who spend Sunday evenings organizing all their meals, clothes, and a million other things for themselves and every member of the family don’t find magical bonus hours in the day; they just dedicate their time to doing so. That’s all you have to do. Just take out one or two hours from your weekend to make the following week a million times easier.

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Just look after yourself.

There’s an interesting article over that talks about how we feel guilty when we snap at our children, but the only reason we do so is that we’re so tired, stressed out, hungry, or a million other things. Of course, you see the problem here. You’re only so run down because you’re trying to look after your kids, but if you only end up shouting at them all the time then you’re not doing a good job of doing so. You need to take it easy and remember that you are important to your children, your work, your home, your relationship, but that’s exactly why you need to take better care of yourself.

It starts with a good sleeping pattern. That’s such a simple piece of advice, but that’s because looking after yourself is simple. Your brain will work better if you let it recover and the same can be said for your body. Also, as suggested over at, meditate. Let yourself rest and relax from time to time; your kids will thank you for it when you seem happier, healthier, and more focused throughout the day.

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