Playing Mom During Your Daughter’s Transition To Teenager

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There are moments in every woman’s life that they will never forget. Their first kiss, the day they passed their driving test, when they turned twenty-one, that drink they drank a little too much of and now can’t even look at anymore, the day they good engaged and then married, the day their daughter was born and, yes, those high-school years where they had to navigate puberty. Those last two moments are somewhat linked.


You see, you’ve been through puberty, and now it is time for you to help your high-school tween make the transition from a child to a teenager because, as you know, it is quite the ride. It is part of motherhood (and fatherhood for that matter). That is why we have come up with a few pieces of advice that will help you make this transition a lot easier for your tweenage daughter. Just remember patience and empathy and you’ll be fine.


Preparation Is Your Bestie On This One

The best thing you can do to help your daughter through the rollercoaster ride that is puberty is to prepare them for the changes they will start to experience. Make this chat as informal as possible and, if it will help, converse with their school to see what they teach on this subject and whether they cover things like menstrual problems. By knowing this you can see how far your role extends and what kind of education is needed. The most important thing, though, is to let your tweenage daughter know she can ask you any questions whatsoever. If they aren’t comfortable doing this (don’t be offended), try getting a book about puberty to allow some privacy.

Some Lessons To Be Learned

With boys, there are lessons on how to shave, deal with some pretty awkward growth spurts and deal with changes in their voice. For a girl, however, they will need to know how to use a pad or a tampon, which is where your instruction is going to be most helpful. They will also need to learn that personal hygiene is now of the utmost importance. It is just part of the transition. That means regular showers and using deodorant, as well as any other hygiene advice you can think of. If either one of you finds this a little awkward, perhaps see if their best friend or older sibling can help. Youtube tutorials could even be the answer.


Be Patient With Their Mood Swings

Remember when they were two-years old and they suddenly just started acting on emotion; crying because you wouldn’t let them play with knives or launching their favorite toy out of the car window for no reason at all. Well, this level of emotional outburst is going to happen again and you are going to have to be patient. Mood swings, low self-esteem, tears and screams; it will all happen. By all means let them know what is behavior is unacceptable, but also make it clear that it’s okay for them to get certain feelings out of their system. You know your daughter, so go with your gut on this one. It could be time alone, a chat, a holiday or a little exercise. Just go with what you think.

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