Body Confidence: Frequently Asked Questions Answered

The term “body confidence” is, without a doubt, one of the main buzzwords of 2017. The idea behind the term is simple: love the body you have, not the body that marketing managers, celebrity magazines, and advertisers tell you that you should want.

While, in essence, the idea of body confidence is a wonderful one, it can also be a little confusing. Embracing the body you have is great, but what if you’re not 100 percent happy with the body you have? Are you somehow failing for wanting to change it? Should we all throw out our beauty products and our healthy eating habits? Is there something wrong with wanting to look as good as possible? These questions, and others like them, have been confusing women since the idea of “body confidence” moved into the mainstream.

So, let’s clarify a few “dos” and “don’ts” about what body confidence should truly mean for you and your life experience. Hopefully, this will allow you to answer any questions you have about the movement, and give you access to all the positives that you can take from the idea.


DO: Decide What’s Right For You



The idea behind body confidence is that we are all able to decide what works for us. So, if you’re comfortable at a certain dress size, you shouldn’t feel the need to change that size unless you specifically want to.

Knowing whether you want to change your body or whether you have been influenced by the media is… tricky. Our perceptions of beauty normality have been warped over the years, and many of us have totally unrealistic expectations of how our body should look as a result.

As a general rule, if you eat a healthy diet and keep active, there is no internal need for you to change. Anything else — such as the pursuit of a “thigh gap” — is not a genuine need, but one that is externally influenced. Casting aside these external ideas of what you “should” look like is key to achieving true body confidence.


DON’T: Feel Pressured To Ignore Your Perceived Flaws

One strange side effect of the body confidence movement is that it can make women feel like they should be happy with aspects of their body… even if they’re not. This can lead to women feeling like they are “failing” at being body confident; failing at the idea that they should love and embrace their flaws, when in reality, their perceived flaws are still a problem for them.

Let’s be clear: there is no “failure” whatsoever with feeling there is a part of your body that you don’t like. There’s nothing wrong with deciding you want to change an aspect of how you look; no problem with making the decision to view Roxy Plastic Surgery for more information on the fixes for the issues you have identified. Body confidence doesn’t mean you just have to love your body as it is and never want to improve anything; it just means you should only be concerned with the issues that bother you. Your opinion is what matters, and if your opinion says that you have a perceived flaw you want to be rid of, then there’s nothing wrong with that. Provided you are the only person influencing your decision, then it’s only natural there might be things about your body you want to change.

Body confidence is about knowing your body and what works for you; if something about your body doesn’t work for you, and you acknowledge it and want to fix it, then that’s a kind of body confidence, essential self-knowledge, in and of itself.

DO: Hone Your Style For Your Body Type



To truly embrace body confidence, you have to feel confident in your appearance. To achieve this, you might need to tweak your style.

For example, many women who struggle with their weight tend to wear loose, baggy clothes. It’s easy to see why this is a tempting idea; the clothes are designed to hide the areas that they are not comfortable with being on show. However, the result is not hidden lumps and bumps, but a billowing “tent”-like impact– that can actually make women look bigger than they actually are. As a result, the clothing choice that was meant to make them feel more confident, actually results in them feeling worse.

Finding the right style for your body shape is essential to achieving genuine body confidence. If you have a small waist for your frame, then use belts to nip the area in and show it off. If your legs are your best asset, then take your hemlines up a notch to give them room to shine. If you’re not sure what your best asset is, ask a friend or family member for their thoughts, as this can help guide you in the right direction.

Finally, If you don’t quite know what the best style for your shape is, then a visit to a personal shopper could be life-changing.


DON’T: Fake It (Because You Won’t Make It)

Just telling yourself that you are happy and confident with your body won’t — despite a popular saying — make it so.

“Faking it” will just make you feel uncomfortable; you won’t “make it” unless there is real, genuine emotion and acceptance behind your attitude. If you need to change your body or style to achieve true confidence, then there’s absolutely no harm in doing so. Again, the key point to remember is that you have to be the one who thinks there’s an area you want to improve, rather than having choices enforced on you by society’s narrow paradigm of beauty.

If you feel the need to “fake it”, then this is a sign there are issues you have yet to identify and overcome. Work on these issues rather than falsely trying to fake confidence; a therapist may be able to assist you in this goal.  


DO: Embrace What Makes You Different

If there is one aspect of body confidence that you should embrace wholeheartedly, it’s the idea that women can look different to one another. Diversity and difference aren’t bad things; they are positives, showcasing everything that humanity has to offer.

Ultimately, the decisions you make regarding your body should be the best version of you, not a definition of what is beautiful or preferable that has been enforced on you by society. If you feel good in yourself, then it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. It’s irrelevant. You only have to satisfy yourself; you are the final decision-maker on the way that you look. If you can persuade yourself to only scrutinize you, and don’t compare yourself to others, then body confidence is a more than attainable goal for you.


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