Why we should never ignore grief

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Being mature and looking to the future is important at all stages of life. The death of a close family member, friend, or other loved one, however, can be a really hard event to experience and process. It’s no surprise that when the worst strikes, sometimes all we want to do is bury our heads in the sand and pretend that nothing’s happening. It’s a classic coping mechanism, and it’s common across the world.

However, even though it’s sometimes hard to be brave, it’s vital that we face up to reality and accept what has happened. Not only does accepting grief help us heal more quickly, but it also means that we can take a more positive attitude to life changes such as death and focus on the happy thoughts, not the bad ones – a move that not only improves our mental health but also changes the perception that death inevitably has to be a source of trauma. Here are some top tips on how to face up to grief rather than sweep it under the carpet.

 

Focus on the happy memories

At first, memories – no matter how happy they may be – can be extremely painful to even think about. Whether it’s that trip to the beach with the kids or simply just going back through your nightly routine at home, anything that reminds you of the person you’ve lost and the memories that now won’t be made is difficult in those first few days.

However, over time, it gets easier and easier to think about memories of your deceased loved one. In fact, they can even become cathartic and a source of positivity as we work to process what’s happened and move on. Think of your memories as like a treasure trove: you can’t open it for a while, but once you do, it will be worth the wait.

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Giving Your Home an MOT

When we first move into a new home, we spend a long time getting the décor just right, making improvements and changing the home to suit our needs and tastes. Then, aside from the odd repair, improvement or replacement, we mostly leave it alone. This is fine; sometimes, it’s nice to simply enjoy our homes as they are, without planning the next phase of changes. You certainly wouldn’t want to spend your life constantly decorating and living in disarray.

But, this means that our homes can quickly become tired and dated, not to mention inefficient and wasteful. We spend a lot of time at home, cooking, cleaning, eating, entertaining and generally living. If you’ve got kids or pets, things can wear out and become dirty or broken even more quickly. So, once a year it’s a good idea to give your home an MOT, just like you would your car. Use this as an opportunity to check that it’s still in good condition, that you’re not wasting money on your utilities and that everything is working at its best. Performing these checks and making a few small changes once a year could save you vast amounts of money, by spotting problems before they become expensive to repair or replace. More importantly, however, they could keep your home and the people in it safe and happy. Here are a few of the things that you should add to your home MOT checklist.

 

Outside Areas

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It’s always a good idea to start with the first thing that you see. In the case of your home, it’s the front garden and entrance. Doing your outdoor areas first also means that you don’t need to worry about walking mud and dirt into your newly refreshed home. Nor will you have to carry any gardening equipment through.

So, start by taking a good look at the outside of your home. Start at the top. Roof tiles can become damaged over time by weather damage and sunlight. A leaky roof can be expensive to repair, as well as leaving you with a cold and damp home. If you’re not comfortable checking your roof yourself, hire a roofer to help.

The next step is your guttering. This can also become blocked and damaged over time and should be cleaned out regularly to prevent trapped water seeping into the bricks of your home and causing expensive to repair damage to its structure.  Again, if you’re not comfortable getting up there yourself, hire help.

Continue working down your home by getting your windows cleaned and checking that the seals are all clean and undamaged. Replace any that need it. Then, all that is left in your door and gardens or drive. Your door is your homes best defence from burglars and unwanted guests, so make sure that it is safe and secure, as well as undamaged, just like your windows.

When it comes to the garden, a good clean up should be your first step so that you know where you stand. Then, take a good look around. Do you need to spend some time removing weeds? Or replanting? If you’ve got a pond or pool, check the PH levels of the water and give it a good clean.

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Parenthood Isn’t Easy: Learn To Keep Your Money In Check

If there’s one thing which you learn when you are a parent, it’s learning to be somewhat cost efficient. Money-smart,  knowing the ins and outs of local stores, and knowing where they sell the cheapest decent hand wipes. It’s basic knowledge like this which keeps up above ground during those tough moments when money is running a bit low, but mouths still have to be fed, and households have to be kept afloat. Now, if you find yourself rather unfamiliar with ways in which you could splash less money on everyday necessities, then look no further than here, because we are going to look into some ways in which you could prepare yourself for those everyday life situations.

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4 Ways To Stay Safe When Driving

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When it comes to driving your car, you want to make sure that you are doing so as safely as possible. You don’t want to get into any kind of accident. With that in mind, here are some road safety tips to help keep you and your family safe in your car.

 

Don’t Drive When Tired

Tiredness causes you have slower reaction times. This is why if at all possible you should not drive when tired. This is the reason why truck drivers are required to stop and take a break every so often as tiredness can cause accidents. If you are a parent, lead a busy lifestyle or are driving in the evening or early morning, then you will likely be driving while tired at some point in your life. However, you should at the very least be aware about how tiredness can affect your reaction times and what impact that has on your driving. If at all possible, you should try and not drive while tired.

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How To Become A Top Mom

 

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Being a mother can be an overwhelming experience. From not knowing what the concept really means to worrying that you might not be able to provide the care that your toddlers deserve, becoming a mom for the first time can be challenging. The new creature’s survival depends upon you and the love you are able to give, but being a mother is much more than ensuring your baby’s nappies are clean, and that he or she is adequately fed.

If you would like to become a top mother, but you don’t know where to begin, here’s a guide that will help you identify what you require in order to be the example others will want to follow when it comes to motherhood.

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How to Complete Your BSN When You are Already a Busy Mom

Whether everyone realizes it or not, being a mom is a fulltime job, especially when your children are still young. Does that mean you cannot complete your RN to BSN once you have decided to start a family? No, it doesn’t mean that at all because every year, plenty of registered nurses complete their Bachelor’s degree after they have started a family, therefore proving that it can be done. Even then, it is not an easy feat, so everyone who successfully does it usually has a plan in place. If you are thinking along the same lines, then it’s time to let you in on how to get your Bachelor’s degree while managing your family at the same time.

The All-Important Support System

Let’s be practical here, no mother can handle everything alone all the time and therefore you will need a support system. This support system should include as many people as possible because that would make sure someone is there to help you, whenever you really need it. It could be anybody really; a neighbor, a friend, a relative, your husband, your mother or maybe someone at the institute who is in the same boat as you and would gladly help you out if you would do the same for them. Getting a BSN is not easy and it would help immensely if you had someone to take care of the kids and other essential family matters, so that you can concentrate solely on your studies for some time.

Getting Your BSN Online

Rutgers University Online has a CCNE accredited program that any registered nurse can take up to complete their BSN over the internet. This essentially cuts down on the cost of getting your Bachelor’s, but with the well-respected Rutgers University name on the certificate. In terms of professional value, it’s equal to the regular nursing course from Rutgers, but at the same time, the online nature of the course gives you all the flexibility you need to manage your family and your education simultaneously. Besides, when you don’t really have to go anywhere to attend classes and come back again, the time saved in the process is just priceless in this scenario.

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3 Types of Lawyer That You Might Find Useful

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There are times in your life when you might need the help or advice of a legal professional. The reasons may vary and so will the type of lawyer that you need to see. With that in mind, here are three types of lawyer and the reasons why you might need to visit them.

 

Family

Family lawyers deal with exactly that – families. This means that a family lawyer deals with any and all family related issues. This might be something like divorce or custody, but it might also be to do with other areas of marriage and children. These sort of things might be prenuptial agreements or to do with family planning and estates. This means that if you need any legal advice or assistance with anything in these areas, then you should go and see a family lawyer. A lot of family lawyers specialize in divorce, but they should still be able to help you with other family law related matters.

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Matt Damon Is Right – We Should Downsize!

Matt Damon is a legend for a reason. He’s one of the youngest Oscar winners ever. He’s famed for his persona and personality. And, in 2015, he survived on Mars for months by farming potatoes. More recently, he starred in a film called Downsizing. Apart from being another Damon triumph, the movie has lots of parallels with modern life.

Let’s face it – who doesn’t want to downsize? Life can be hectic at times, especially for families. Sometimes, it’s better to have a small amount of quality than a great deal of quantity. In today’s society, it’s a theory that’s difficult to remember but Downsizing does it perfectly.

So, with that movie firmly in mind, let’s apply it to the home. A person’s house should be their castle, but a fortress is far too big. Here’s how to minimize it and everything else on your property.

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Simple Floor Plans

Walking through a modern living room is like trying to get out of a maze. It’s impossible to head in a straight line and find an exit. The reason, aside from the clutter, is the complicated layout. To try and mix feng shui and natural elements, homeowners scatter furniture and accessories all over the house. Minimalist houses are much less complex and far easier to navigate. Why? It’s because these properties stack belongings on top of one another to create extra space. A coffee table with a lamp is a prime example and one to keep in mind. Bookcases and high shelves also work wonders. Items that double as storage are fantastic space-savers, too, as are minimal walls.

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Being a Mom is a Full-time Job

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When you first become a Mommy, life changes forever. Now it’s not just yourself you need to look after, you also have this tiny bundle of joy who seems to take up every minute of the day – even when they are sleeping!

For the first few weeks, you and your newborn will have an intensive relationship, sleeping and waking at the same time, and becoming almost inseparable. But then there will come a choice – do you want to be a stay at home mom or do you want to go back to work? Can you find a compromise?

There is no ‘right’ answer to deciding whether you want to return to work. It comes down to what feels right for you and your baby. For many women, the first couple of years are ideally spent at home, but after a while, it’s time to return to work. For other women, getting back to work as soon as possible is a must.

However long you leave it, going back to work, even just part-time or working from home, is always a possibility. Motherhood isn’t just a fact of life, it’s also the perfect way to learn all sorts of transferable skills like negotiation, health and well being and teaching. In fact, many employers would love to read your CV now you are ready to return to work.

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Want To Change Your Lifestyle? Start Right Now

January is always a time of the year that is filled with hope and inspiration to make some changes to your life, and generally, your actual lifestyle can be top of the list as it covers such a broad area of things. Lifestyle can be your health, your fitness, what you eat and how you act. But collectively making your lifestyle a priority can mean that you improve many other aspects of your life, which is why so many people consider it rather than just focusing on one area of it. However, it can often feel overwhelming, so I thought I would share with you a few simple tips and areas to help you get started.

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Drink more water

Water is nature’s natural detox, and so it can be one of the best things you do if you are serious about changing your lifestyle. As a busy mom, we can often forget to keep ourselves hydrated, focusing on our children instead, so a great tip is to have a bottle of water close to hand to ensure that you are reminded to drink the water yourself. More water can help with skin tone and condition, better sleep and even give you more energy.

 

Be more active

Often the thought of exercise can be one of the last things we want to do, but mentally, this can be great for your mindset and also how you feel physically. You don’t need to be heading to the gym each day, you can just try and be more active. Heading out for a walk or a run is a great place to start. You could even add insoles to your runners for extra support and comfort. Websites like biopods.com have a great selection. Being active each day, even if just for five minutes, could dramatically change your lifestyle, and it is definitely something you can start right now.

 

Look at what you eat

What we eat can really huinder our lifestyle choices, and often, being busy means that we can grab on the go and sometimes they may not be always the best choices for our health. You could try a different diet, perhaps cutting out gluten or focusing on a plant based lifestyle. Or you could choose to have a more balanced diet, where you nourish your body with what it needs. Websites like healthline.com have some great tips. Don’t let weightloss be your motivation, more having more energy and feeling good.

 

Dress to impress

Sometimes how we look can seriously impact how we feel, so even if you don’t feel like it dress smart and look good. Of course, don’t be impractical, even if you just make an effort with your hair, or put on your favourite shirt instead of your sweats it can instantly lift your mood.

 

Take some time out to focus on your mindset

Finally, take some time out to focus on your mind and thoughts. A positive outlook can be really beneficial for feeling productive and getting things done. It can feel hard at first, almost like you’re forcing it, but once you get into the swing of things your outlook and thought process naturally changes.

I hope that some of these tips help you get started on your lifestyle change.

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